I tend to be pretty open minded and pretty non judgemental when it comes to people, their beliefs and lifestyle choices. As long as their decisions don't affect me directly I am fine with their choices even if they aren't something that I would choose for myself.
For example, as much as I have fantasized about having a threesome (what girl hasn't) I can't imagine actually being in a relationship with multiple people at the same time. I even have a hard time casually dating more than one person at a time. It could be that I am easily confused and would have a hard time remembering who said what but I think that it is more that I feel like I am betraying someone.
Which is why I have never understood the lure of cheating. I have read many articles that say that men cheat because of the physical release and that it isn't an emotional one. If that is the case, why aren't they whacking off in the shower and keeping the fidelity in their relationship?
Being a woman, I think that for women it is more of an emotional need. You feel ignored, unimportant, that you aren't being fulfilled emotionally so you go and find the guy that makes you feel beautiful, special and important. I am certain that there is the rare woman that cheats for physical needs too. Probably their husband/boyfriend doesn't satisfy them the way an old flame did so they run back to the old flame to get that need fulfilled.
What is the lure of cheating? I don't get it.
I see the pain, misery, anger, hatred, mistrust and the devastation that it causes. If you are planning to cheat or even if it is a spur of the moment thing and you end up cheating on your significant other what brings you to that point? Is it a lack of morals or a lack of strong character that people succumb to? Is it an overwhelming desire that you are unable to control? Is it knowing that you are "getting back" at your significant other because they did something to hurt or anger you?
Have you ever been cheated on? How did it affect you? Were there any positives that resulted from being cheated on?
Have you ever cheated? Was it worth it?