D always stays at his dad's house on Wednesday and every other weekend.Last night when I picked him up at his grandparents after I got off of work his grandmother gave me a cryptic message. After D had gone to the car she told me to ask him what happened this morning at his dad's house.
Some of you may know some of this situation if you have read my blog for a long time. If you are relatively new go read this: http://rachelg1016.blogspot.com/2006/08/puppet-master.html. (sorry about the funky link but blogger is being wacked out today)
Now that you know the back story I will tell you what happened yesterday morning.
Nick, age 14, is Step-Monster's oldest son. He has a bi-polar disorder and HATES Butthead.
Yesterday he was looking for his belt and couldn't find it. He mouthed off to Step-Monster and Butthead told him to knock it off. Nick went off the deep end and launched himself at Butthead, assaulting him. Butthead wrestled him down the to the floor to prevent Nick from hitting him. Step-Monster tried to pull them apart and Nick hit her in the process. I guess that the police were called and Nick was arrested and taken to juvenile hall.
During this episode, D was sitting on the couch with a blanket over his head.
I asked D what he thought about what happened and he said "I thought it was cool."
After questioning him further I found that due to his fear he was trying to corrolate what had happened with mild violence in a video game. I explained to him that any kind of violence, videogame or otherwise was completely unacceptable.
I am pretty strict about what games D can play but his dad allows him to play games that I would deem inappropriate.
As we have shared custody and visitation time filed with the court I have no recourse as Butthead makes the day to day decisions when I am not there.
I am so frustrated. There are so many little things that happen while D is there that I don't want him exposed to but because nothing has happened that enables me to file a restraining order against anyone in the house my hands are tied. If Butthead chooses to exercise his visitation rights (which he does every week) I am legally obligated to abide by the court order.
I am at a loss on how to diffuse the negative influences that he receives when he is over there and it is breaking my heart that he has to see these things.